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9/05/2011

Something about love and friendship


Something about love and expectations, the experience said so.

Particularly I have been upset about it because my friend Lady Sonja asked me about love:”By the way what is new in your love life?”- Well indeed, nothing new on West I answered to her. ‘But what is new on East?”- She insists. Curiosities kill the cat as Bretons use to say so moreover this curiosity kill my Sunday peace. I would like to answer to her as in Serbia people say:’ On the West nothing new, but on the East just old stories.’’ – But I did not/ I have told that my good jolly good Breton Abraham is just boring as most of people of his age and his profession as doctor in hospital in Cambridge. Once up on the time my fathers have asked me:’’For God sake, why do you not gone to be married with Abraham. He is calling you every day, sometimes help and actually he ask for your hand me!?’’ – My father has been outsider from my life almost 20 years, how could he ask me about such personal things. This is my life, live it me to run my life in peace, thought I; you just have not such right. Most of people thought that with me is something wrong when I abandon such opportunity in my age either they thought that my soul is Ice cube, loll! Colleagues talk behind me that I am Bitch, cold doctor Hannibal Lector, which care just for carrier. Honestly I have this music from movie about Doctor Hannibal; it is my favorite face with specific English pronouns of Antony Hopkins. When the lambs stop to cry – but just first part another movies are not so good like this first one! In some weird way I like his behavior, because know that most of us has such dream. Not exactly to eat liver of somebody but stupidity of people provoke you to imagine that you grab his heart and smash him while he is still alive. Did you know, that most of very educated people, hipper intellectual have such ideas in brain but they did not have courage to done such things but sometimes the doctors in hospitals after years and years of practicing began to hate all sick people and they simple kill people with meds. Most of doctors do not care for patients they just give prescriptions which could damage organism and in contradiction they kill very cool! Mostly the old people are main target. I know this on the most of the examples’.
But shall we speak about LOVE, WHAT IS JUST NOTION for my opinion like metaphysical question. For instance question like existence of God, freedom, eternity are just appositional as Kant says. You could not give categorical proof for them; either you could give nihilist answer. Bloody tautology, nothing is secure so you are in mess< just one choice which we have is it to believe in existence of Love, existence of superior Being as is it God , just to believe in eternity, coterie und coterie. Maybe some of you could think about me that I am nihilist as Niche who denies and criticize Christianity and Ethics of his contemporary Church! But in some séance he has right as Kant has given it proof for his famous Apria’s. He actually says that God, freedom, and immortality, although they could not been proved or disapproved, are necessary postulates of rational morality. Indeed they are since us reasonable human beings we should act by laws of Lord either 10 metaphysical orders. It is another is we rational; did you think that contemporary man is rational and is it his behavior absolutely by moral laws. I thought, honestly contemporary civilization is so far of it!? Man particularly speaking about his behavior in his relations with another people. You could meet; especially today; very small number of people who are following either respect Universal Laws so we have such situation that Equilibrium is lusted and mother earth is obviously disturbed with such selfishness’! So future is unpredictable.
Speaking about love between two people, male and female it is something like speaking about what we aspects from it! For instance, man and women are different physically, psychically and by years and years of time like Foucault says in his famous book History of sexuality the aspect of man and his brain and function of reason is so different from women’s brain. Influence of education and human’s aid in retrospective of centuries has been changed but the man and women are different in many aspects.
What we could say so about love. It also depended of culture and level of civilization of particular society but we are speaking about western civilization and role of female in contemporary time. We\should be blind, but we know that first role of women is to be mother, second to be good housekeeper,  third lady and just seducer for her husband, boy friend either partner. You should be very clever to understand what did you partner expects from you if you would like to keep good and successfully relationship if you find partner which you looking for. This is it for female’s goods; she must be very sophisticated and quiet (not literary sense) but in good moods’ of Vivendi. Always keep on mind that male should have his own space, his own time, his own friends even sometimes he should go where he just won’t without questions. Believe me it is better for female either women or sweetheart to live her partner in peace to run his life in freedom. Because the males are seekers, they always would like to keep them eternal freedom beside the wife, children, and daily duties! They just need space for action, which has some additional target either is just blowing on the wind. Bet let it be. Women would have an INNER peace and without misunderstanding if SHE fined mutual language and respect WITH HER PARTNER! Great expectations are wearing just empty hope which could be for sometimes not fulfilled and as human being women would be hurtled.  So take it or leave it but male have be by his nature leaded, HIS BRAIN IS of another structure from females so itch women could try to change cycle of the earth but she could not change the habit of male, either he love her. Maybe on the beginning everything is like in fairytale but after become something what we call fatigue. Especially if women does not have her own world that would destroy her, because she must have her life just for her! This so simple and equal but every women does not understand this, when she find her equal partner she thoughts this is one ideal circle but it is not. Everybody of us has his own habit and togetherness claim to fit one partner with another; in this case man and women. In my understanding this is love mutual understanding, equal relationship but respect for another partner which is without any kind of selfishness either great expectations. Just grab the beautiful moments in the love, let it them to pass and just wait with tranquility in soul for new moments. Why I thought such. Because life is not simple he is full of troubles, problems, lot of possibilities and different ways. Life is complex of many things and man and women could not be center of entire life of human being as it is on first sight family. People, women either man seeks for more, and tiredness and life in one space brought lot of challenges. Sometimes you could feel this negative atmosphere; sometimes she is so positive when you could make it. Love is not blind, but love is rich for women if she know to find right way to her man; but she must have always on mind that male is different he just need little more space than women. He could be a priest either mobster; two opposites; but remember the brain of man is different from women’s. Well indeed most of mans expects from woman to be lady on the street, seducer in bad, and good domestic wife. Most of women’s expects from man security, wealthiest, faithfulness, and care. Man could give everything but you should have to respect his needs if you seek for equal love as wife, sweetheart or partner! Equal freedom in temporary time means that everybody should take care about health speaking about sex! But in marriage we could not expect that your husband would not try another fruit. But it is very rare in this world for both sexes that in marriage they did not taste just one time fruit from another store, lol. So love is really metaphysic which brought to us happiness and tranquility on the stormy ways in life when we know that somebody has wait for us and think about as without possession. So Lady Sonja the answer is this:’’Maybe I have found such man now when I am mature, tranquil and different from my youth. Yes I am the women in love but without great expectations !
Anja with Love